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And We’re Still Making Love In My Secret Life
 - A Video For Julie

August 27th, 2010 · 4 Comments · Julie Showalter, Leonard Cohen

“In My Secret Life” – The Soundtrack Leonard Cohen & Sharon Robinson Wrote About Julie And Me I should clarify that, as far as I can determine, Leonard Cohen didn’t  know, as he labored over  “In My Secret Life” from its first draft in 19881 through numerous revisions until he completed it in collaboration with [...]

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Julie’s Marital Vows – “Going The Rounds: A Sort Of Love Poem” By Anthony Hecht

July 16th, 2010 · Comments Off · Friends-Family, Julie Showalter

The anniversary of Julie’s1 and my wedding  is only a few days away, and only a few days after that I’ll be attending the wedding of the son of extraordinarily close friends. The approach of these two occasions led me to search through my collection of Julie’s letters, cards, and personal documents this morning to find [...]

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Baby, Let’s Get Married – The Found Photos

June 11th, 2010 · 2 Comments · Julie Showalter

I dreamed about you, baby It was just the other night Most of you was naked Ah but some of you was light The sands of time were falling from your fingers and your thumb, and you were waiting for the miracle, for the miracle to come Ah baby, let’s get married, We’ve been alone [...]

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Reading Letters From Julie

April 23rd, 2010 · 3 Comments · Julie Showalter

I am taking a day or two off. While I have much I hope to accomplish, the first  item on today’s agenda is perhaps the clearest indicator why I’m not attending to my usual tasks, such as generating a typically prolix, profound, and profane Heck Of A Guy post. My morning will be spent re-reading [...]

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And We’re Still Making Love In My Secret Life

December 3rd, 2009 · 7 Comments · Julie Showalter

At 7:00 on the morning of December 3, 1999, in the bed we shared, Julie Showalter, my beloved, fiercely smart, wickedly sexy wife, died from cancer diagnosed the week of our wedding nearly 20 years earlier. I miss her every day. In My Secret Life In the past, I have never planned in advance which [...]

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Julie, 11th Century Chinese Poetry, And "Build Me Up, Buttercup"

September 29th, 2009 · 1 Comment · Julie Showalter, Poetry

Ten Years Living And Dead Have Drawn Apart About this time of year in 1999 Julie’s1 cancer, which no longer responded to any of the treatments available, exacerbated, beginning an irreversible deterioration that would end December 3, 1999 with her death. Because we managed her dialysis2 ourselves and because, in any case, there was nothing [...]

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Mary Travers And The Soundtrack Of My Life

September 18th, 2009 · 2 Comments · Julie Showalter, Music

Mary Travers, the female vocalist of Peter, Paul & Mary, died on September 16, 2007 at age 72. I hadn’t intended to post about her death, but an email from a friend with a link to a couple of videos of songs she, Peter Yarrow, and Noel “Paul” Stookey performed reminded me how important their [...]

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Julie Liked Yellow Roses On Her Birthday

August 14th, 2009 · 2 Comments · Julie Showalter

On The Birthday Of Julie, My Much-Beloved, Fiercely Smart, Extraordinarily Sexy Wife Who Died 10 Years Ago One of the few reliable sources of solace I have found following the death of my wife, Julie,1 almost 10 years ago has been Donald Hall’s poetry dealing with the loss of his wife, poet Jane Kenyon. I [...]

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Reading Julie's Letters On Our Anniversary

July 20th, 2009 · Comments Off · Julie Showalter

Julie1 & Allan Showalter – Married July 20, 1980 Over the past year, I’ve found myself re-reading the letters I received from  Julie before she moved to Chicago to live with me 30+ years ago. Consequently, it’s not surprising that I’ve spent most of my time on the anniversary of our marriage going through those [...]

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Julie As Pen Pal

May 21st, 2009 · Comments Off · Julie Showalter

The time I set aside for blogging today dissipated into the multiple efforts required to prevent a family problem from evolving into a family catastrophe, the routine, mind-numbing chores necessary to feed and clothe those same family members, and a couple of hours spent reconstituting myself by re-reading the letters Julie1 sent me before our [...]

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